It is difficult for me to fully grasp that, this time last year, I was in the throes of one of the most heart-wrenching break-ups of my life, a catastrophic shift in what I considered my family unit — referred to here as Gallactic Collision 2014. There are a lot of moving parts in that equation to this day, a full year later. A lot has changed for me, entirely and wholly for the better. Freed from toxic, oppressive, and limiting influences, sexual manipulation and emotional exploitation, I never dreamed I could be this new creature. It’s amazing what a person can accomplish when they are not spending ten hours a day up to their elbows in psycho-emotional vampires.
My chosen family has changed a lot. I’ve gained Caitlin, Dirae and her partner, So Many Shouty Women, an entire enclave of wonderful people in Toronto I adore, Hanif and Alex are back in my life. Ginny, Shaun, and I are all neighbors. I’ve gained three adorable cats I love dearly. My family from Alliance LARP is stronger than ever (Congratulations, Sean and Samara on your engagement! I love you!). And Thomthulhu and I … are wonderful. I am gifted with an amazing partner who, despite how challenging the last twelve to eighteen months have been, looks me in the face every day and says: We Have Got This. I know we’ve got this, because we run sh*t.
And today is proof. With the help and support of more people than I can even dare to try thanking (though Hanif, you’re at the top of the list), I’ve resigned from my position at the law firm.
My last day as a paralegal is Friday, June 19th. That Sunday is my second anniversary with Thomthulhu, as well as the Summer Solstice. The next day, I begin my new role as a Systems Analyst at a small, but well established niche software company. My salary will almost double. Innovators at my new place of employment basically write their own tickets and design their own positions. I will be working with an intimate team of weirdos and nerds who recognize my skills and talents, and want to see me rise like a sun on the horizon of an uncharted planet. I will be on-site quite a bit while I get up to speed, but the goal is eventually, for me to work two days on site most weeks, and the other three from wherever I choose. I will be selecting my own core hours, and my work day will be over in the early afternoon most days. I will have a lot more responsibility, and will be required to learn unceasingly for the remainder of my career.
So basically, it’s the total best and I cannot wait and I’m excited, terrified, and starry-eyed all at once.
The paperwork is signed, sealed, and delivered. In half an hour, I will be heading out to see BoringBot’s art show down on Penn’s Landing and plot what will happen to him and his pals in tomorrow’s session of Jade Regent. Then I see Nyree in person for the first time at a Picnic in my neighborhood, which will be a delightful preview of my impending takeover of Toronto later this summer. Sunday, I meet baby Ada for the first time. Amanda is in town with her new daughter, and I will also meet her wee Lily next week, and will see much more of the Birdwell family this coming year!
So many strong arms have held me through this year of transitions and uncertainty and hope.
Arms I never could have dreamt to even hope to find. And yet, and still. Here we are friends.
I could never have made it without you.
Love, Love, Love, Love, Love.